I come from two cultures that respond/react tremendously different, when it comes to expressing your emotions physically. In Guam, when we greet each other, we will often embrace one another, give the other a kiss or at the very least extend a hearty handshake, often letting the moment linger. While talking to one another, it is common to periodically touch the other person, to show affection. When parting, this may all be repeated; often more than once! However, in Japan, it can be the total opposite. Although this is changing and does differ with family, relatives and close friends, there is still a certain amount of distance and restraint practiced. Bowing to each other is the norm; if there is some physical contact, this is usually limited to a handshake or a pat on the hand or shoulder; even then, it could be an awkward experience, particularly if the other party is not "prepared" for such physical contact. In most cases, keeping one's composure under control is important and can be expressed by more verbal means or facial expressions. This has been both a frustrating/confusing and interesting/comical experience for me most of my life, whether it be with personal or professional situations. I am very much accustomed to both ways, yet there are times when it can be difficult to put into play my bi-cultural habits of expressing myself physically, especially during times of extreme happiness or sadness.
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